Forced Dressing - Forcing the submissive to dress however the Dominant sees fit, whether publicly or privately. Used generally for humiliation. YES

  Force-Feeding - A technique by which the Dominant controls the submissive's eating habits. Used to "fatten up" submissives or in age play games. YES

  Forced Homosexuality - Scenes where the submissive is forced into having sexual relations with someone of the same sex. NO

  Forced Heterosexuality - Play involving the submissive performing forced sex with someone of the opposite sex. NO

  Forced Masturbation - Scenes where the submissive is forced to perform masturbation in front of/for the Dominant or others as a form of erotic / sensual play or humiliation. YES

  Forced Nudity - A scene which involves forcing one's submissive to remain nude either privately or publicly. Generally as a form of control / humiliation. Note: In some areas, this is illegal in public. YES

  Forced Servitude - A form of play involving the submissive acting as a servant / maid to the Dominant. May be played out in public or in private as a form of humiliation. YES

  Forced Smoking - Forcing the submissive to smoke (usually cigarettes); however, other various types of smoking are used in heavy S/m play. NO

  Full-Head Hoods - A flexible covering for the head and sometimes neck. These come in a variety of shapes, sizes, and textures. Worn to prevent the sense of sight for erotic purposes. YES

  G

  Gags - To restrict the use of the mouth by inserting a gag, in various textures (i.e., cloth, leather, ball gag, etc.). When using gags, it is important to remember that these only be worn for short periods of time. This form of play can be dangerous. YES

  Gaming Rooms - Rooms designed for different purposes. Rooms can be for role playing - curiosity, mood rooms, taste rooms. YES

  Gas Mask - A mask worn on the face connected to a chemical air filter and used to protect the face and lungs from toxic gases. Used mostly in heavy S/m scenes. NO

  Gates of Hell - A type of cock ring worn around the base of the testicles and penis to restrict blood flow to the penis during erotic scenes. Specially designed, this type of cock ring is usually made of metal and has several rings attached together, ranging from the largest at the base and going smaller toward the tip. NO

  Genital Sex - To cause an orgasm through the genital area, done strictly to the genital area with any body part or through the use of toys. YES

  Given Away - Where a Dominant releases a sub to another Dominant without exchange of favours. NO

  Golden Shower - Play which involves urinating on one's submissive or vice versa. YES

  Gun Play - Scenes involving the use of firearms. It should be noted here: Gun Play is a dangerous form of play and should not be entered into lightly. Serious consequences could occur from such play and it is not recommended, It is also considered illegal. NO

  H

  Hairbrush Spanking - Play which involves the use of a hairbrush to inflict pain on the buttocks. Commonly used in "naughty boy / girl" scenes for punishment. YES

  Hair Pulling - Pulling of one's hair for the purpose of pain / humiliation. Used often in heavy scenes. YES

  Hand Jobs - Using the hands to perform sexual gratification on a man's penis. Stroking of the penis to facilitate orgasm. YES

  Harem - To have more than one submissive in a scene or in daily life (i.e., the Dominant has a "harem" of women / men). A common occurrence in the Mormon religion, and in polyamorous relationships. NO

  Harness - Bondage apparatus consisting of a network of straps designed to form a web over a large area of the body or head. Well-known leather body harness for wearing around the upper torso. Harnesses can be constructed from a variety of materials. Some harnesses built properly are used in suspension. YES

  Head - To perform oral sex on the man's penis for erotic pleasure to facilitate orgasm. YES

  High Heels - A long with boots, these are the most fetish items around. They combine the discomfort and pain of wearing them with the damage they can inflict when used as weapons. Some scenes may involve wearing, licking, cleaning, etc. See also “Boot worship” NO

  Homage - Term meaning to pay respects to; homage; honour. A ceremony involving the submissive "honouring" the Dominant in some way - public or private. Could also mean paying "homage" to the penis / vagina, feet, breasts, etc., by worship. YES

  Hot Oils - The use of warmed oils for massaging or various other uses for erotic type play. Be careful of oil temperature before applying to another's skin, test on Your own forearm first. This form of play can be dangerous. YES

  Hot Wax - The process of using hot wax in scenes. The wax most commonly used are candles and can be used on various parts of the body for erotic stimulation. Note: Some types of wax, beeswax for instance, have a tendency to become extremely hot during burning and should always be used carefully to prevent permanent burning / scarring of the skin. Note: not for the novice, as this form of play is extremely dangerous. YES

  Housework - Play involving the Dominant instructing the submissive to perform domestic duties as a form of punishment / control. Can sometimes also be used as erotic play (i.e., cleaning in the nude). NO

  Humiliation - To humiliate the submissive by requiring them to perform things they normally would not do, most commonly in public (i.e., wearing revealing clothing; having sex in public; playing out puppy, boy / girl scenes, etc.). YES

  Hypnotism - To place someone in a trance-type state, and offer suggestions into certain types of behaviour. Safety note: This form of play is not for the novice. NO

  I

  Ice Play - ice used on nipples or genital areas for desensitization of senses or nerves. YES

  Immobilization - Any form of bondage technically immobilizes someone; however, this term is usually used for extreme forms of bondage where the submissive literally cannot move a muscle. Not recommended for long periods of time, and is dangerous. YES

  Infantilism - Scenes where the submissive assumes the role of a child / infant and is treated as such (i.e., diaper wearing, spankings, standing in corner, etc.). NO

  Initiation Rites - A *Term* meaning the rites, ceremonies, and / or ordeals by which an individual is made a member of a house or society. Example: College initiations ("hell week"). More commonly known as "beat-in" or "earning letters", such as pain slut. YES

  Injections - Term meaning to "inject" the body with a substance (i.e., saline solution, insulin, flu shots, drugs, etc.). Usually performed with a hypodermic needle. Note: This is a very risky type of play and is NOT recommended. The sharing of needles should never be done! Injections should be left to those that have been properly trained or to health care professionals. This form of play is dangerous, and is illegal in most countries. NO

  Intricate (Japanese) Rope Bondage - A very complex form of bondage that is also quite beautiful to not only see but witness being performed. The submissive is also bonded in such a way as to allow easy access / removal of the device at any time. YES

  Interrogations - Term meaning question, systematically and formally. Commonly performed in "police interrogations"; police-type scenes. Commonly used for humiliation. YES

  K

  Kidnapping - Term meaning to seize, detain, or carry away by unlawful force. Some players in the BDSM scene have fantasies regarding kidnapping and may ask for a scene involving some sort of "play kidnapping". This form of play requires after care and is classified as illegal in many areas. YES

  Kneeling - To be used as a form of "respect" toward the Dominant. Making the submissive kneel when the Dominant enters the room, during scenes, in public, etc. A punishment form of kneeling is where the submissive is kneeling in a different position than for *offering* herself. YES

  Knife Play - Cutting the surface of the skin with sharp objects, generally a knife, for the thrill, sensation, or pain. To also create decorative scars. The same basic precautions apply as with other types of blood play. Remember to stay away from vital organ areas and genital cutting. NO

  L

  Leather - Material made from the cured skin of animals. Wearing leather is a popular sexual fetish. Leather, especially the wearing of black leather gives the wearer a certain sense of power and is commonly worn in the BDSM scene by the Dominant. Used for making floggers. whips, etc YES YES YES!

  Licking - Play involving the "licking" of various body parts. YES

  Lingerie - Women's intimate apparel. Lace bodices, stockings, bras, panties, etc. YES

  M

  Manacles / Irons - Metal rings joined by a chain to restrain the wrist or ankles. YES

  Massage - Using the hands (generally) to massage areas of the body. Possibly giving a massage to "warm up" or “foreplay” before play. YES

  Medical Scenes - Done in a room equipped and fitted as a physicians or surgeons office. This is a form of role play, where cavity exams, piercing, the use of needles, scalpels, equipment sounds are generally found. Not for the novice. Some forms of this play is illegal, and can be dangerous. YES

  Mentor - One who assists another in study. Usually a well-versed Dominant helping a submissive understand the lifestyle and their role in it. A Mentor guides another to achieve knowledge, not a teacher. YES

  Modelling - Usually used for pictures, where one is placed in positions for best appearance. YES

  Mouth Bits - A type of mouthpiece, generally used on horses and ponies, that is inserted into the mouth and is used to bite down on. Used typically during pony girl / boy play scenes. YES

  Mummification - A specialized kind of bondage in which the whole body, including the head, if a breathing tube is used, is wrapped tightly to prevent any type of mobilization. Common types of materials are saran wrap, gaffa tape, or cloth or latex bandages. Holes are then sometimes made to allow access to the genital area. This form of play is dangerous, and should always have extra help around in case of an emergency. YES

  N

  Nipple Clamps - Clamp-type devices placed on the nipples during play to stimulate and stop blood flow to the nipple. One of the general household items to be used are clothespins. Care should be exercised to be sure the material used in clamp, does not stick to the skin, as tearing can occur. YES

  Nipple Rings - A ring that is worn through the nipple. Piercing of the nipple and inserting a ring, similar to nose piercing. This type of piercing stimulates the nipple. Piercing should be done by a professional. NO

  O

  Orgasm - Intense excitement resulting in an explosive discharge of neuromuscular tensions at the height of sexual arousal that is usually accompanied by the ejaculation of semen by the male and by vaginal contractions in the woman. YES

  Orgasm Control - When one is forced to release or hold their body's desires to orgasm. Can be used in play or punishment. YES

  Outdoor Scenes - Scenes involving the great outdoors! Any scene where the couple is outside during scenes. Some activities are illegal. YES

  P

  Pain - In broad terms, pain is the body's warning that something is wrong; however, our pain responses are very complex and it is very easy to produce the effect of pain without doing any real harm to the body. The "pain threshold" at which a stimulus crosses the boundary between intense sensation and pain is a gray area in terms of our perception. BDSM is associated in most people's minds with potentially painful activities, sometimes referred to as "pain games". It is true; however, that some people actually enjoy or at least get some satisfaction out of the intense physical sensation. Some of the satisfaction may be attributed to the release of body chemicals also known as "endorphins". Most players' interests are a mixture of physical aspects and the psychological dynamics of Domination and submission, and some play with hardly any physical pain at all. Those for whom the interest in pain is predominant are sometimes referred to sadists and masochists rather than Dominants and submissives. After care is needed, and monitoring the one receiving pain, is mandatory. Not for the novice for play. YES

  Parachute - Round leather device which is fitted between the scrotum and the base of the

  penis with chains for weights to be added. This is a form of play, or punishment. NO

  Phone Sex - Play which involves having simulated "sex" over the telephone. Some phone companies deem this illegal. YES

  Piercing - Piercing of the body with a thin sharp object such as a needle. There are two types of play, permanent and temporary. Permanent piercing is done with a thicker needle which enables jewellery to be easily inserted. Temporary piercing is done with a smaller, thinner needle which can be removed without permanent scarring after the session is completed. (i.e., nipple piercing, ear piercing, genital piercing). Mostly done to enhance the sensual areas of the skin. Piercing should be done be a professional. NO

  Pony - A device used directly on genitals for punishment. The person's body weight, plus additional weight is placed directly on the pony which distributes pain to a very area. This is extremely dangerous as permanent damage may result. Not for the novice. YES

  Pony gear - This type of gear includes hoods, bits for mouth, bridles, straps, harnesses, saddles and anal plug tails. Some use hoof shoes as well. These are used to “train” a submissive to be used for work, as a pony. This can be very dangerous as joints, limbs or back maybe damaged. Not for the novice. YES

  Pony Slave - Scenes involving the submissive being dressed or made up as to portray a "pony". Scenes might include mouth bits, harnesses, saddles, riding crops, etc. Note: Riding your pony can cause serious damage to their backs, hips, joints. YES

  Prison Scenes - Acting out a scene involving some type of prison scene. The use of a *cell* is for punishment and humiliation. YES

  Prostitution - The selling of one's body for sexual purposes (i.e., selling sex or sexual favours). This form of play is illegal in many areas. NO

  Public Exposure - Play which involves exposing oneself in public (i.e., flashing). Used for control / humiliation purposes. NO

  Punishment - Scenes where the Dominant "punishes" the submissive for "bad or unruly" behaviour. Often performed in little boy / girl scenes which may involve spankings, time-outs, etc. YES

  Pussy Whipping - "Whipping" the genital (vagina) area with different types of equipment (i.e., floggers, crops, slappers, etc.) for erotic pleasure. YES

  Pussy Worship - The practice of play involving the "worship" of the female genitalia. Scenes may involve the cleaning, licking, shaving, etc. In general, "worship" is a form of erotic play. YES

  R

  Rack - A table-like device which is fitted with pulling or stretching capabilities. Some racks incorporate pulleys, winches or wheels for pulling one in opposing directions. Paddles or whips are generally used on the person on a rack. YES

  Religious Scene - A form of play where the submissive is usually dressed in nun's or clerical attire. YES

  Riding Crop - A short whip-type instrument made of leather with a "loop" at the end which is intended for use on horses. May be used in scenes involving pony boy / girl type play. Riding crops are used to administer punishment, as well. YES

  Rimming - Mouth contact with the rectal area, which includes insertion of the tongue. Note: Hygiene precautions should be observed with this type of play. This play can spread disease. YES

  Ritual Acts - If one wants to perform ritual acts to commit to a religion or belief. YES

  Oh God, I am not performing any ritual acts! "Elijah, I cannot perform the ritual thing you do - I won't." I implore with a firm stare.

  He shakes his head and looks pained; he's frowning deeply, his eyes almost black.

  "Princess, I am sorry. I was meant to say no to that." He says as he tries to take the leather book from me.

  "No, you don't need to take it now, I just want you to know that I will not do any of that, and I hope you will stop it all now that we are together. I don't want you involved in any of that stuff, Elijah."

  "I will not commit to anything dark. I told you I haven't since I met you."

  "Good."

  Phewww, thank the fucking Lord! Quickly nipped in the bud and effective.

  Rope bondage - There are many styles of rope work from simple to very intricate. study of knots is important to anyone wishing to attempt this play. This form of play can be very dangerous if blood flow is disrupted. Not for the novice. YES

  Rubber / Latex Clothing - Besides leather, this type of clothing is the next best thing. One example may be a rubber hood. Some bondage items are made out of latex sheeting, and as with leather, black seems to be the most popular colour by far. YES

  S

  Saint Andrews Cross - This is a cross made in an X formation. It is generally angled and self-supporting. Some are suspended from ceilings, or mounted directly to a wall. The cross has leather restraints for arms, legs and body, Some have hooks along the edges for a person to be “laced” to the cross. Used for sexual play, or punishment can be administered while attached to the cross. NO

 

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