(Un)arranged Marriage, page 1
About the Book
Part One: Four Years Earlier
Chapter Two: May
Chapter Three: July
Chapter Four: August
Chapter Five: October
Chapter Six: December
Part Two: A Year Later . . .
Chapter Seven: December
Chapter Eight: May
Chapter Nine: June
Chapter Ten: June
Chapter Eleven: November
Chapter Twelve: End of November
Chapter Thirteen: December
Chapter Fourteen: March
Chapter Fifteen: April–May
Part Three: India
Chapter Sixteen: June
Chapter Seventeen: June
Chapter Eighteen: July
Chapter Nineteen: August
Chapter Twenty: August
Chapter Twenty-one: August
Chapter Twenty-two: August
Chapter Twenty-three: August
Chapter Twenty-four: August/September
Chapter Twenty-five: September
Chapter Twenty-six: September
Chapter Twenty-seven: September
Chapter Twenty-eight: September
Part Four: The Wedding
Chapter Twenty-nine: October
Chapter Thirty: November
Chapter Thirty-one: Friday 28th November
Chapter Thirty-two: Saturday 29th November
Chapter Thirty-three: Sunday 30th November
Chapter Thirty-four: Tuesday 30th November
About the Author
About the Book
Harry and Ranjit were waiting for me – waiting to take me to Derby, to a wedding. My wedding. A wedding that I hadn’t asked for, that I didn’t want. To a girl I didn’t know . . .
If they had bothered to open their eyes, they would have seen me: seventeen, angry, upset but determined – determined to do my own thing, to choose my own path in life . . .
Set partly in the UK and partly in the Punjab region of India, this is a fresh, bitingly perceptive and totally up-to-the-minute look at one young man’s fight to free himself from family expectations and to be himself, free to dance to his own tune.
Firstly to Penny and Jennifer Luithlen for taking me
on and encouraging me. And telling me off
occasionally. Thank you both.
To everyone at Transworld, particularly Annie Eaton,
Sue Cook and Tracey Hurst – for the wicked cover.
I hope you like the next one as much.
To my sister Avi and to my mum for supporting me.
I love you both.
To everyone who helped and encouraged me –
Ben (I owe you one),
the Moores, Jag, Lisa, Sonia, the Dhillons.
My other family – Fran, Irene and Katie, Parmy, T-Baron,
Anna Greensmith, Nancy D. and especially
Jeff Allen – and then there were two . . .
and Baby-Jane who got to have the very
first read, lucky child.
I would like to dedicate this story to
Tarsem Singh Rai; and to Graham Swain.
I miss you both.
R. I. P.
The toilets in the motorway service station at Leicester Forest East stank of disinfectant. But at least they were warm compared to the biting cold wind that was kicking up outside in the car park – where my two brothers Harry and Ranjit were waiting for me. Waiting to take me to Derby, to a wedding – my wedding. A wedding that I hadn’t asked for, that I didn’t want, to a girl who I didn’t know. They must have sat there waiting for me, laughing to themselves about how I had finally succumbed to their way of thinking, their way of life. A good Punjabi man at last, after years of being a tearaway, a rebel, a junkie and a philanderer. At least, that was what they had called me at various times.
I thought about my old man, waiting in the gurudwara in Derby, smiling a forced smile as the alcohol in his blood ate away at a little more of his liver, dreaming his once-technicolour dreams that were now played out in a sepia-tinted haze, dulled by the disgrace that was his youngest son. Me. Come to think of it his smile might actually have been genuine. After all, I was doing the right thing, at last. Restoring the pride and honour that I had destroyed with my wayward actions during the previous four years. I’m sure he must have been standing there, content in the knowledge that his beloved Punjabi culture had won out against the dirty, corruptive, white culture of the country which he had chosen to make his home. Like my brothers and the rest of my family, he chose to see only what he wanted to see, not what was really there, like some lovesick fool.
You see, if they had bothered to open their eyes they would have seen me: seventeen, angry, upset but determined. Determined to do my own thing, to choose my own path in life. They would have seen the marker left in those toilets at Leicester Forest East and realized that, underneath my ill-fitting suit, I had on my real clothes. That in my head was a hip hop tune that summed up exactly how I had them. They thought they were finally playing me, that I was dancing to their tune, when all the while I had them dancing to mine. It’s kind of hard to explain the journey that I’ve made over the last few years, but I’ll try because I believe that it’s a story worth telling.
four years earlier
‘NO WAY! I’M not getting married.’
I was shouting, something that I didn’t do often. My oldest brother, Ranjit, had provoked it. I had come home from school and heard him and his wife having sex in their bedroom. I’d ignored them and gone into the kitchen to get myself a bowl of Frosties, but he had come downstairs, mumbling something about exercising, his moustached face all red from exertion. I know that I’d only just turned thirteen at the time but I wasn’t a child. Like I didn’t know what they were doing up there! It was just embarrassing, that’s all. But then, after telling me a complete lie, he started banging on about how I would end up just like him.
‘One day, Manjit, you’ll be like me. Married to a nice Punjabi girl, thinking about babies.’ It would have been all right if his wife, Jas, hadn’t walked into the kitchen as he was saying all that stuff to me. They’d only been married for a few months and it was bad enough having to call her phabbi-ji, Punjabi for sister-in-law. Man, all she ever did was giggle. I just ignored them in the end, taking no notice of what Ranjit was saying. I tried not to take much notice of any of my family, full stop!
I hated being called Manjit too. Manny, that’s what my name was. Manny. Not Manjit. That was a girl’s name. There was this girl called Manjit in my class at school and all my friends teased me about it. Even my teachers called me Manny. If they wanted a reply. My brother knew how much I hated being called that so he made the most of it, the fat, smelly, hairy idiot. And as for being the youngest, well, that brought its own heap of grief too. Every joke seemed to be at my expense, as though one of the only reasons for my existence was to amuse my older brothers. There was Ranjit, who I’ve already mentioned, and his giggling wife, Jas – and then Bilhar who everyone called Harry. He was sixteen and already engaged to a girl who he had never met before. My parents had shown him a photo of a friend’s daughter, caked in make-up and wearing a red sari, and he had said ‘yes’, just on the strength of that. But then again, that was the way things were in my family. Arranged marriages, preferably as soon as school was finished with.
I had two older sisters, too, both of whom were married with kids of their own. Dalbir, the eldest, was twenty-five and always seemed more like an aunt than a sister. The other one, Balbir, was twenty-one and had just had her first kid, a son. Balbir lived with her in-laws in Gravesend whilst Dalbir lived in Coventry with hers. That’s the way it was in most Punjabi families; girls become members of the family they marry into and call their in-laws Mum and Dad. I had never really known either of my sisters because they were so much older than me. I was only six when Dalbir had got married, to an immigrant from India. He’d been working illegally for some uncle in a hosiery sweatshop. Marrying my sister gave him his right to stay in England. In Balbir’s case, my old man had made an arrangement with a friend of his, almost like a business agreement, just so that Balbir’s husband would be able to stay in England too. Man, the only thing missing was the financial aspect. It was all too weird for me, something I just couldn’t understand. How could anyone marry a person they’d never met. How could that work? Not that I’d even ever had a girlfriend up to that point so I was no expert, but still, I just couldn’t get to grips with the whole idea.
My parents were odd too. My old dear, my mum, well she was just like a stranger who never spoke to me unless she was asking what I wanted for dinner, or shouting at me for pissing about. She never asked me what I was feeling or what I was thinking or anything like that. At school I’d hear all my mates going on about how their mums had helped with their homework. Mine never even bothered to find out if I did any homework, never mind help me with it. Not that she could have anyway. I don’t think that she ever went to school.
And my dad, well, he ran the family with fear. He was always either at work or sitting around, pissed on Teacher’s whisky, shouting at everyone. He got angry all the time, maybe at something he’d seen on the TV or some problem at work, or sometimes for no reason at all. I’d never seen him hit my mum or anything like that. With her and my sister-in-law he just shouted a lot which scared them enough anyway. I had seen him hit my brothers though, whenever they were out of order, which was not that often because they were basically turning into newer versions of him and that was what he wanted all his sons to be.
With me though it was like open season. He’d hit me for asking him too many questions or for daring to say something back to him. One time, he’d clipped me round the head for having a go at Harry, and I had answered back calling him a ‘bastard’. I got beaten that day with his old hockey stick that he kept under the stairs and I had to tell everyone at school that I had hurt myself playing football. He hit me all the time, sometimes I reckon just because I was in his range. It was either his fists or his feet or anything hard that came to hand. Not that I was that bothered by it. I mean, he’d been doing it since I was a kid and I just saw it as one of the daily hazards of growing up – trying to avoid getting hit. I did wonder though why he singled me out. Sometimes I thought it was because I was the youngest and other times I really thought that he hated me for some reason, only I was never told what it was. Maybe he could see that I was more influenced by the whole Western culture thing than my brothers had been. He definitely didn’t like the fact that my best friend wasn’t Asian. Either way, getting hit all the time made me feel an outsider and the feeling just got stronger as I grew older.
We lived on Evington Drive, in an area that was popular with Punjabi families. There were only three bedrooms which meant that I had to move out of my box room and in with Harry when Ranjit got married and his wife moved in with us. Ranjit and Jas got my old room, even though it only just had room for their bed, but that was their problem. They were the ones who had nicked my room from me.
Sharing a room with Harry was like my worst nightmare. He was fat and hairy, and had a horrible habit of leaving his dirty football kit, muddy boots included, all over the place. He only bathed every three days and in the summer the room stank of stale sweat when he’d been lifting weights. At night I used to pretend that he wasn’t there by pulling the duvet over myself like a tent and reading by torchlight. Even then he’d throw things at me or call me a poof.
‘What you wanna read for, man? Bloody Dickens – what are you, a gorah (white) or something? Read about bloody man’s stuff, innit.’
I hated having no privacy, no time to myself that wasn’t intruded on by a brother who still found fart jokes incredibly funny. He was so bloody thick, it was like talking to a gorilla sometimes. I hated him. And he’d turn up like a bad smell every time I wanted some peace, no matter where I was – the garden, the garage, wherever. Recently Ranjit and his wife had started doing the same, always around and giggling at each other like kids.
My mum was always in the kitchen, cooking, or watching the Asian channels on Sky in the living room. And Dad? Well, He was a law unto himself, walking round the house like a drunken zombie, belching all the time. To escape, I’d tried locking myself in the bathroom once but only succeeded in getting a smack in the mouth from him for my trouble. I couldn’t even do my homework in peace because no-one in my family saw it as being important. They thought that school was a waste of time, like quite a lot of working-class Punjabi families. All they were interested in was trying to earn money and you couldn’t do that at school or college. Ranjit and Harry had both got jobs in factories as soon as they left school. It was a wonder that I ever got the high grades that I did – not that anyone in my family cared.
I spent as much time as I could out with my friends. Adrian, my best mate who I’d met at junior school was, as he described himself, ‘Black-Jamaican’. I spent most of my time outside the house, with him and some other lads. But mainly Ady. We played football together, for the school and on Sundays for a local youth club team. In school we were always together, meeting up during every break and having a laugh together. To my family Ady might as well have been the devil in disguise. They were always on at me about him, especially my brothers and my old man. I’d be at the front door, just about to escape and my old man would appear, pissed on Teacher’s, at the living-room door.
‘Come back, Manjit!’ he shouted in Punjabi. I always knew what was coming so I’d make a face. ‘Where you going?’ Often he’d speak in this English–Punjabi hybrid that always made me smirk because it sounded so funny and then – CLIP! – my left ear would be stinging. ‘Where are you . . .?’
‘Out.’ That’s all I ever said to him.
‘I’m not blind, Manjit, I can see that you are going out. Where to?’
‘Just up the road with Ady.’
‘Ady? Bloody hell! Why are you always with that kalah (black)?’
And that would be it. I’d go mad because my old man was dissing my best mate. I’d call him a racist, get another clip across the head and then he’d pour out all of his prejudices about black people.
‘You see if I’m not right. That kalah will lead you into drugs. I watch the news, boy, I know what these kaleh are bloody doing, taking bastard drugs. Bad society. You’ll be stealing and smoking . . .’
I’d get another slap and then storm out of the house, with him swearing after me, shouting, telling me to be back for roti or else. As if he really cared. He would be drunk every night after work and all weekend, even though he pretended not to drink on Sundays. Most nights he would pass out by ten and forget that he wanted to beat me for coming in after I was allowed.
As for all that stuff about stealing and smoking, he knew nothing. In reality it had been me who had led Ady astray. I’d been the one who had started shoplifting at places like Boots and HMV, for deodorants and CDs and stuff. It was so easy that I’d got Ady to come along. We stole lipsticks, hair gel, all kinds of things – to order, selling them on at half-price to other kids at school. It wasn’t even that serious. It was more a way of showing off, like smoking. We only did that to get in with the older lads or because we thought, stupidly, that it would impress the girls. I never even liked the taste. I suppose it was all part of growing up – being rebels.
Ady was we
I didn’t care what anyone said about him anyway. He was my mate and we did everything together. My early adventures with Ady were a prelude to my future. Like a one-minute trailer to a film – a taste of what was to come.
I WAS IN Year 8 at school when the date for Harry’s wedding was set. Within the year I was going to have to move into a new room that was being built as part of an extension to the house. My old man had planned it for years and had the money put by for it, having worked in the same plastics factory since he’d come over to England and saved every penny he could. In Punjabi society it is the custom for the bride to live with her in-laws as part of the extended family, but sometimes that meant having as many as three or even four generations of the same family living under one roof. Nightmare. That was the way I looked at it.
One of my cousins, Ekbal, who was the same age as me and went to a school only half a mile from mine used to talk to me about it – the extended family thing. He was my mum’s nephew, her brother’s youngest kid, only my dad didn’t really talk to Ekbal’s dad. Ekbal’s old man was a doctor and he was the exact opposite of my old man, really forward-thinking and chilled out. Ekbal was allowed to do what he wanted within reason as long as he studied hard and made sure he went to university. His old man saw education as important and didn’t mind what colour Eky’s friends were. My old man called him ‘Mr Professor’, as though being successful was some kind of fault or handicap.
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